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OH! The Games People Play:


BEWARE: The Emotional Games People Play!
It can be amazing how people react during the festive season. At a time for joy and harmony many suffer disdain and argument with others, including loved ones, which may have arisen from suppressed resentments. These resentments can be a result of many years of festering unresolved issues that may show themselves in these, at times, stressful occasions.
How do we handle these issues normally without the expression of resentments directed at a specific target? Through the Games We Play. We all play emotional games in order to receive a subconscious reward or pay off. For example; we all at some time or another have played the role of the victim and although the pay offs are different for each individual, a victim can often gain sympathy or attention as a benefit of this game.
As every game has a payoff it will also carry through with a rip off. Using the above example of the victim game the rip off would end up being that others will get sick of your game. I ask you! “Do you really want to be that person that people avoid asking how are you today, in fear of you answering them”? Most games are subconscious to justify our own internal defensive belief systems and to protect our deluded ego based opinions of our lives.
To avoid being caught up in your own emotional games, you must first of all own the delusions in order to retrain the negative beliefs attached to the games. On ownership you can retrain your behavioural reactions and consequently deal much more responsibly with how you feel and react. The three R’s are the keys here: Recognise, Retrain and React differently.
David Sherry
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Don't ya just luv irony...

Sometimes the irony of life really does crack me up. After a recent post requesting that other Enneagram people resist from posting and typing celebrities or famous people I have just realised that I am the very culprit I want to address... LOL you gotta love it!!!

Why do many of the Enneagram community insist on typing famous people and celebrities based on what we are lead to believe their personalities are in the public forum. It really does detract from the credibility of the Enneagram as an authentic personality profiling system while tending to pigeon hole people. It's appears to be getting worse with the Enneagram's rise in popularity. Get the message peeps; we are not a number!!!

By caterorising individuals into a set type/style it detracts from the very essence of this dynamic tool because as when we truely understood we are all styles/types on the positive the realisation of the dynamics come to play. As I often like to enforce, "We are not a number but it's more the number we do on ourselves." Meaning. we determine a place of existence instead of living our individual revelation due to our own restrictive thought and as a consequence belief systems. Choose to follow the positives of this awesome tool!!!

How is it that most believe it if they see it and yet for the majority the seeding of the neurosis is based on the unknown that is instilled in life from the belief of others. If we could choose our direction in life at an early age with a free will attempt I would have it to say that many would have had a totally different and possibly more individual journey discarding the said influences and beliefs of others. It is however a fact that the aspect of nurture does play an essential part in who we are. Unfortunately, we can believe who we are as a consequence of what we have internalized from the beliefs of others in our formative years. Especially with our parents and maybe siblings. Therefore later in life we carry these neuroses into future relationships. It is reversible through accurate EQ and self awareness. Enter the Enneagram....




Many people spend a large part of their lives wishing, hoping, planning and dreaming that things were different. They often become accustomed to what they consider this as the norm. To be challenged can have them seeping into emotional depression and even a sense of helplessness.

Unfortunately people with this syndrome can begin to believe that this is how life has to be. Without heading down the track of some inspirational and motivational true story that these people would only believe is for the lucky in any case, I ask a question. Are you one of the people above? Be honest as there really is a part of this in all of us and only those who become proactive to rise above this can begin to see a positive change.

Nothing happens without action. Therefore it is so important that each of us understand that we have an innate source of greatness which can transform any individuals life. Set yourself ambitions that will allow your personal freedom allowing you to move forward in your own life. Desperate times usually create desperate actions so refuse to fall victim to circumstance and defy your own negativity to enhance your birth right greatness.

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